MZWANDILE CHARLES NKOSI

CHARLES MZWANDILE NKOSI

RELATIONSHIP

To Writer wow that was a sad story, am happy that you did not seat back after seeing your husband doing what he did just after the car accident that made you paralyzed.  I can see you place one step in front of the other, you climbed to higher length and guess you reach beyond your expectation/limitation; you showed your inner strength. You just prove that disability has not won, “the difference between those who fail and those who succeed is largely perseverance never quit “by Charles Schwab. This blog or article will not inspire or change people with disability only, it will change even the mentality of people who discriminate others .I am happy for you, you such a strong woman, you know what you want and you fight for it, you also prove that you can do it in this world without the help of the discriminators like your ex husband.

G Ward

Gersham Ward
3364754
Response to blog- page 88
Well firstly, I think that being disabled is not easy as an individual. You are constantly being either judged or critized by the next and so it goes on and on.
I think that you are so brave to take time out and share your story with us.  You have the boldness and courage to state and confess on how you feel regarding your situation. I truly agree with you that people do look at your condition first. Well, it is in today’s society based on your outward appearance but the actual “true you” lies within you. It is your personality that brings out or expresses who you are. Looks can be very deceiving and are at times attracting but the best thing you do is just not to feel intimidated by it.
I honestly salute you. Being yourself disabled and sharing your side on how you view shall and I hope it changes the minds of many individuals differently. I believe that with this story people will start respecting individuals that are in the same boat as you.

N Vilakazi

Response to 'relationships' p88

This blog post proves yet again that we live in a fickle world. Yes, we are all instilled at a young age with the moral code that you have to “love thy neighbour as you love thyself” and “accept that we are all different” but as we grow up or get into our teenage years we start opening our eyes to these differences we were told to overlook in earlier years. So essentially, dating becomes difficult and when the difference cannot be help, in the case of this young strong paraplegic lady, the world is a cruel place.

 No one should ever be made to feel less of a human being because of how they look or because of the disability that they had no control over. I command you on your strength. You are really inspirational for choosing not to feel sorry for yourself but to rather work on being a better you.

M.H. Qose

Mawethu Happyboy Qose

It is so sad to hear that you have separated with you partner just after your accident; surely it must have hard for you to make such a drastic decision. The is one thing that I have learned in life, love is a principle which means that, your partner will love at all times no matter what. A sad reality is that many I making a mistake when it comes to this, many make decisions based on their feelings. The problem with this is that feelings comes and go. I sometimes hear people saying love is blind no I totally disagree with this, love is not blind but while you love please do not love blindly. Another thing that I would like to add, it is true that no man is island. It is good to hear that you are in a relationship but let me warn you, try and reflect on your past relationship and learn from your mistakes try and avoid doing the same thing again or this might ruin your relationship but do not dwell too much on failures but rather learn how you can keep your happy. You are to teach him and to guide him to the right direction and be there for him. I wish you all the best in life.         

M.N. Tlhotse

I personally think that the writer was writing out of emotions based on her experience on relationships and her intentions being to encourage those with the same situation. It really should be difficult for her being paraplegic and being discriminated indirectly and having relationships that ends so quickly. I think that there are two in a million men that actually hold on to their paraplegic women and it really depends on how the woman deals with her condition. This article can be seen as a motivational because not all paraplegic women would approach the world with such confidence. For the writer, life might be difficult from now on as her relationship status is not so good and finally with a positive attitude she no longer blames her condition for going through what she is going through. This article can also make us realize that disability is only more visible when you let it change who you really are and when you develop that low self-esteem. It also seems as if when this paraplegic woman wrote this article, she actually had enough of the negativity around her and finally opens up about her journeys hoping to assist those struggling to deal with the disabilities of their loved ones. It gets the reader really emotional with a positive approach which I think is the best way to share a life’s journey with other people, sympathy plays a huge role here which might be, of course, the main point of the article!

S.P Nhlabathi

This South African female is traumatized with the condition she is in and with the lifestyle that changed for her after getting paralyzed, due to the fatal accident that she got. To me I can take this situation as a challenge that I should deal with. Her partner did not behave like a real man with the spirit of humanity. He is not the realistic and honest man and did not love her and proves that he came for certain intentions, because when loving someone you stand for him or her, in the days of the lightness and in the days of the darkness. The disability is not something that you prepare; it just comes unexpected, like she didn’t apply for it. Her partner does not understand.

People are not the same. It’s painful when you are in this condition and this situation but there is nothing you can do with a person, just work on the conditions and get sorted and surely that will bring you the good and positive lifestyle. Forget about the past, look at where you are and try the alternatives as to how will you reach you destination. This gives me a lesson that I should not trust and believe a person (human being), because a person changes like water. Water is transparent, nut once you add one drop of dye, the whole content of water will change. Only accepting the condition, and taking all things simple, generally, will help to think wise and have the good decisions about your life, will take you from condition to position.

Kim Rutgers

28 February 2013

Student Number: 3303922

Response to blog
"My Journey"

God Bless you, oh so brave lady. This was my first thought/ feelings, I felt for you. Your article describes how your abilities just seemed to shatter away. And my heart goes out to you, in terms of your journey.

As an able body, I can only but imagine your daily tasks. One moment, you can walk, run, skip and even bend. The next moment, you have to rely on help of others. As humans, we have a sense of pride and dignity that disables us from accepting such help. And with that, recovery could come so much slower.

How funny one’s roles can change, in a split second. I sympathize with you, though you sound like a confident young adult, (with strong ambitions).

I wish you all the best, as you continue to grow from strength to strength. Take comfort in knowing that the world and modern life eases the lives of not only able people, but of disabled people, as well. The road to success and recovery lies in your hands through your attitude.