G Ward

Gersham Ward
3364754
Response to blog- page 88
Well firstly, I think that being disabled is not easy as an individual. You are constantly being either judged or critized by the next and so it goes on and on.
I think that you are so brave to take time out and share your story with us.  You have the boldness and courage to state and confess on how you feel regarding your situation. I truly agree with you that people do look at your condition first. Well, it is in today’s society based on your outward appearance but the actual “true you” lies within you. It is your personality that brings out or expresses who you are. Looks can be very deceiving and are at times attracting but the best thing you do is just not to feel intimidated by it.
I honestly salute you. Being yourself disabled and sharing your side on how you view shall and I hope it changes the minds of many individuals differently. I believe that with this story people will start respecting individuals that are in the same boat as you.

N Vilakazi

Response to 'relationships' p88

This blog post proves yet again that we live in a fickle world. Yes, we are all instilled at a young age with the moral code that you have to “love thy neighbour as you love thyself” and “accept that we are all different” but as we grow up or get into our teenage years we start opening our eyes to these differences we were told to overlook in earlier years. So essentially, dating becomes difficult and when the difference cannot be help, in the case of this young strong paraplegic lady, the world is a cruel place.

 No one should ever be made to feel less of a human being because of how they look or because of the disability that they had no control over. I command you on your strength. You are really inspirational for choosing not to feel sorry for yourself but to rather work on being a better you.

M.H. Qose

Mawethu Happyboy Qose

It is so sad to hear that you have separated with you partner just after your accident; surely it must have hard for you to make such a drastic decision. The is one thing that I have learned in life, love is a principle which means that, your partner will love at all times no matter what. A sad reality is that many I making a mistake when it comes to this, many make decisions based on their feelings. The problem with this is that feelings comes and go. I sometimes hear people saying love is blind no I totally disagree with this, love is not blind but while you love please do not love blindly. Another thing that I would like to add, it is true that no man is island. It is good to hear that you are in a relationship but let me warn you, try and reflect on your past relationship and learn from your mistakes try and avoid doing the same thing again or this might ruin your relationship but do not dwell too much on failures but rather learn how you can keep your happy. You are to teach him and to guide him to the right direction and be there for him. I wish you all the best in life.         

M.N. Tlhotse

I personally think that the writer was writing out of emotions based on her experience on relationships and her intentions being to encourage those with the same situation. It really should be difficult for her being paraplegic and being discriminated indirectly and having relationships that ends so quickly. I think that there are two in a million men that actually hold on to their paraplegic women and it really depends on how the woman deals with her condition. This article can be seen as a motivational because not all paraplegic women would approach the world with such confidence. For the writer, life might be difficult from now on as her relationship status is not so good and finally with a positive attitude she no longer blames her condition for going through what she is going through. This article can also make us realize that disability is only more visible when you let it change who you really are and when you develop that low self-esteem. It also seems as if when this paraplegic woman wrote this article, she actually had enough of the negativity around her and finally opens up about her journeys hoping to assist those struggling to deal with the disabilities of their loved ones. It gets the reader really emotional with a positive approach which I think is the best way to share a life’s journey with other people, sympathy plays a huge role here which might be, of course, the main point of the article!

S.P Nhlabathi

This South African female is traumatized with the condition she is in and with the lifestyle that changed for her after getting paralyzed, due to the fatal accident that she got. To me I can take this situation as a challenge that I should deal with. Her partner did not behave like a real man with the spirit of humanity. He is not the realistic and honest man and did not love her and proves that he came for certain intentions, because when loving someone you stand for him or her, in the days of the lightness and in the days of the darkness. The disability is not something that you prepare; it just comes unexpected, like she didn’t apply for it. Her partner does not understand.

People are not the same. It’s painful when you are in this condition and this situation but there is nothing you can do with a person, just work on the conditions and get sorted and surely that will bring you the good and positive lifestyle. Forget about the past, look at where you are and try the alternatives as to how will you reach you destination. This gives me a lesson that I should not trust and believe a person (human being), because a person changes like water. Water is transparent, nut once you add one drop of dye, the whole content of water will change. Only accepting the condition, and taking all things simple, generally, will help to think wise and have the good decisions about your life, will take you from condition to position.

Kim Rutgers

28 February 2013

Student Number: 3303922

Response to blog
"My Journey"

God Bless you, oh so brave lady. This was my first thought/ feelings, I felt for you. Your article describes how your abilities just seemed to shatter away. And my heart goes out to you, in terms of your journey.

As an able body, I can only but imagine your daily tasks. One moment, you can walk, run, skip and even bend. The next moment, you have to rely on help of others. As humans, we have a sense of pride and dignity that disables us from accepting such help. And with that, recovery could come so much slower.

How funny one’s roles can change, in a split second. I sympathize with you, though you sound like a confident young adult, (with strong ambitions).

I wish you all the best, as you continue to grow from strength to strength. Take comfort in knowing that the world and modern life eases the lives of not only able people, but of disabled people, as well. The road to success and recovery lies in your hands through your attitude.

S.P Nhlabathi

L Olivier

Lulu Olivier 3353810

Response to: Relationships

Dear heartbroken writer. While I was reading your blog I truly felt every feeling you were describing. I could totally relate to your situation, because I have felt exactly the same as you do, even though we had different circumstances. A while back I felt exactly the same I had always questioned men, testing them and not trusted them. You truly inspire me because you are still so positive even though you are disabled. You are like a role model to me, you kept your chin high and smiled. The guy you were dating really does not deserve you. If he truly loved you for who and what you are he would’ve stayed with you. When you get disabled people(like your boyfriend) often start to pity you and feel sorry for you and when they don’t truly love you they often write you off and see you as unimportant. You are worth more than anything. You are an amazing person and you should believe it – being disabled does not make you a worse person, it just complicates your life a little bit. If God didn’t think you could handle the situation he wouldn’t have put you in it.

K.Smith

Krystle Smith 

Student Number: 3300269

21 February 2013

Response to blog on ‘The Hospital’ pg88

I found your blog on the time you spent it hospital particularly touching. I could relate with the feelings you experienced during this tough time because I had a similar experience when I was in hospital after my major car accident that happened in 1990. I particularly enjoyed reading about how difficult it was for you to communicate with the nurses and the feeling of confinement, two experiences that I too myself found rather challenging when I was in the same situation. Being incapable to bath oneself and use the lavatory in your own time must have been rather infuriating so I deeply sympathise with you for having to endure it. As for the Mcdonald’s and KFC cravings; I know exactly how that feels, I got so sick of hospital food that I couldn’t wait to eat fast food. You are truly an inspiration to the youth of today living with disabilities. I adored your section on the lesson learned. You are so right when you say that God will never throw you in a ditch without a rope. With a whole lot of faith one can go very far. You should be so proud of the person you have become and because of what you have been through you have become a stronger person who is able to handle situations more effectively. You inspire me. I was completely moved by your story.